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I am a trans-gentleman looking to make a difference in this world. I was born female but that does not make me any less of a man. I believe that everyone has the right to self-determination and that no one has the right to tell another person what they are or aren't. I believe in Universal Human Rights and in a higher power that is not full of wrath and rules but just pure creative and loving energy. I have dedicated my life to making positive change in the world through my work as an LGBT activist. I am currently a Political Science Major at University of Wisconsin - Stevens Point and plan on working with organizations like the Human Rights Campaign, National Center for Transgender Awareness and others in the activist community after I graduate. In the meantime, I use social media to spread a message of equality. I am here to make a difference in this world. Please join me. My most recent publication is acts as a guide to other FTMs based off of my journey transitioning. Support independent publishing: Buy this book on Lulu.
Check out my blog about my journey as activist and FtM at boxersandbinders.com Legalize Trans - Affirm, Include, Appreciate trans and gender-non-conforming people and issues Click here to visit Legalize Trans.
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Hey if you don't mind me asking, who did your top surgery?
boxersandbinders boxersandbinders Said:

Lakeforest Plastic Surgery in Lakeforest IL, Dr. Steinwald.

Asker the-crooked Asks:
I don't know if you're into men or women but I'd just like to say you're a very handsome man. -Tyler
boxersandbinders boxersandbinders Said:

Well thanks. I actually have a partner right now who is a woman and I am a pretty straight trans boy.

outriderreview:

By Erika Gisela Abad

(The full piece can be found in Volume One, Issue Three of The Outrider Review. Click here!)

….

Couples’ hands tighten in each other with the clock click clack against the brick pavement. Buses are gathering as seconds of the New Year gather weight. Minutes after…

This morning I walked out of the shower and saw myself in the full length mirror and for the first time I was completely ok with what I saw.
I had surgery 6 months ago and have started studying Buddhism which has helped me through my struggles with anxiety, panic attacks, and dysphoria. The acts of mindfulness and of calming my mind and knowing that everything is impermanent has led me to an incredible place of peace.

thehandsomebutch:

As of today, there’s an exhibit at FIT called A Queer History of Fashion: From the Closet to the Catwalk. It’ll be at the museum through January, in case you want to see garments like this bomber jacket (c. 1978) which was donated in memory of a gentleman named Jack Fenstermacher:

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This is so cool!

This post is dedicated to my church family for living up to the ideas of love and acceptance that Christ truly taught. They have demonstrated what their Lord talked about and not what mainstream society would have them believe. 

Read the article here.

My life has changed quite a lot since I came out, but Music has never left. 

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Does it really ever get better?
boxersandbinders boxersandbinders Said:

It does. But it takes work. I wrote a poem specifically to address this. If you take control of your life, make a commitment to yourself to make it better and start taking steps to change it, it really will get better. 

I also started studying Buddhism lately, and it has helped my anxiety, depression, dysphoria, and general inability to calm down SO MUCH. If you’re interested in finding a good starting place to start working on yourself and helping heal your mind, check out Rebel Buddha by Dzogchen Ponlop. 

Here’s the poem talking about how I found a way to make it better. 

https://www.youtube.com/enhance?v=pzZowfUSL0U

outriderreview:

We all have a story to tell. Share yours with The Outrider Review. We bring together the stories, art, and souls of the LGBTQ community to help spread understanding and connection.

I’m working on a piece right now for the next issue! 

outriderreview:

We all have a story to tell. Share yours with The Outrider Review. We bring together the stories, art, and souls of the LGBTQ community to help spread understanding and connection.

I’m working on a piece right now for the next issue! 

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hello!I have a question.I'm still in hiding as an ftm how should I break it?My parents don't have much education about Transgenders but I'm helping them learn.
boxersandbinders boxersandbinders Said:

With education comes understanding. Keep communication open, be as understanding as you can, and understand that in the long run, you need to make sure you’re doing what’s best for you. 

If you need more resources, I try to keep my page as updated as possible with a huge list. 

http://boxersandbinders.com/resources

Good luck